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Cast member Tarzan and wife Terri’s true love is what will be remembered by Survivor fans this season, not who won the million dollars.

If you want to believe in love, last night’s Survivor Reunion show brought it!

This season’s loved ones visit to Survivor Island took the cast and the world by surprise when the most annoying remaining cast member Tarzan (plastic surgeon Greg Smith) was reunited with his wife.  Not one shy of dramatics this season, Tarzan knelt on one knee when it was his turn to wait for his loved one.  His wife of 30 years comes running out of the jungle and into his awaiting arms.  It was a scene from a romance novel.  As a matchmaker who wants everyone in the world to find this kind of true love, I am thankful to CBS for making a big deal out of it.

If you watched this season, Tarzan made it a point to annoy.  You got tired of vocabulary-man’s overuse of big words, even in your living room.  That was his strategy to get to the finals.  If no one liked him, he might make it to the finals because he wouldn’t be a threat to win the million dollars in a fellow cast (off) member vote!  But Tarzan, who said he’s been called Tarzan since age 8, had the romantic moment of the season.  It will be remembered more than who won the million dollars.  I think, anyway.    (Kind of reminds you of Renee Russo’s speech in Tin Cup…”Roy, no one will remember who won, but they’ll remember your 15 shot hole-in-one!” or something like that)

Here’s last night’s loving cutaway scene of the season from the Reunion show (after awarding one million dollars to Kim Spradlin):

"You take him away, I'm lost," Terri hugs her husband, CBS Survivor cast member Tarzan on the loved ones visit. This is the kind of love that gives us all life. Even if you have to trace it back to your grandparents or beyond, real love and commitment are in our bloodline.

“You take him away, I’m lost,” Terri Smith tearfully revealed to host Jeff Probst and the world watching.

“What is the secret to this magical love affair?” Probst probed.

“We have care, respect and responsibility. And we cannot lie to each other,” Terri Smith replied immediately, shaking her head in a ‘no, we don’t do that’ on the lie part.

Do you wish your relationship was that strong?  What Tarzan and Terri teach us is that they made a pact from the beginning of their marriage.  They’ve been married 30 years and they can’t live without each other!  That’s Hollywood material.

They have a strong love.  The way she recited the motto from memory was how some employees and CEOs recite corporate values for the most successful companies.  Stay tuned for that blog post.

I find when I introduce or meet couples who have the strongest relationships, they put the other person first!  They make a commitment.  Each one of them is dedicated to honoring their commitments.  When they honor their commitment to love and support each other and ask, as my friend Steve Hardison asks his wife every day, “What can I do for you?,” they have the strongest marriages.

QUESTIONS FOR YOU TO CONSIDER IN LOVE

What do you commit to in your relationship with the one you love?  Or what do you commit to being when you fall in love again?  Perhaps it’s time to think about that.

Tarzan and Terri, and likely, your grandparents and great-grandparents, are role models for everyone who wants to believe in true love and commitment.

No matter how much faster society is moving today than it did in the days our grandparents fell in love, marriage has become an easier ceremony to say “I do” in because divorce is a more acceptable solution when things get rough – than it used to be.

If we could get everyone to choose better before they marry and to make a tangible commitment like our grandparents did, I think we could do it!   –Matchmaker Roseann Higgins

We could live in a world of happily ever afters again.  No matter how easy a divorce is, they HURT!  They hurt both of you, those who love you and those who work with you.  There’s a ripple.  I wrote about the divorce ripple and the importance of selecting the right one and waiting for the magic in answer to ABC TV-15′s question:  Is there such a thing as finding the one?

“Your soul mate is out there”: By Roseann Higgins, president and professional matchmaker of SPIES: Single Professional Introductions for the Especially Selective read more: http://www.abc15.com/dpp/news/local_news/hear_me_out/is-there-really-such-a-thing-as-finding-%E2%80%98the-one%E2%80%99#ixzz1utgHrQRl

I spent considerable time drafting the response because I figure a TV station’s website is eternal.    Plus, I’m a slow writer and almost as much of a perfectionist at writing in a way to convey my thoughts right and to be hopefully be helpful to at least one reader as I am at matchmaking every single person with someone as close as I can come to their forever love.  You’ll find an update to that post on this website someday soon, in between making matches and going to events to find matches.

Chelsea, one of the three Survivor finalists, shared Tarzan and Terri’s love gave her hope!  Thank you Survivor, the Smiths and everyone else who works hard at their relationships and cherishes the one they love every day.  Maybe that’s you.

Tarzan and Terri and all who have that forever love inspire tomorrow’s musical tribute:

“Where have you been?” is performed by Kathy Mattea.  It is about a couple that never spent a night apart until they were in the hospital as patients on separate floors.

Click here to read it–>  http://www.especiallyselective.com/blog-true-love-story-behind-where-have-you-been/

Write here or on my Facebook page.  I’d love to hear from you!

Sending you forever love wishes,

Roseann

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