Ask Roseann – the most Wickedly Good Matchmaker on the Planet!
I received this email today from a young, good looking guy. He wrote:
Hi Roseann,
I had met you at the Country Club event when (deleted names for confidentiality) was presenting. We ran in to each other when I was with (someone you know). I was very intrigued by your company and what you do. I never have had any difficulties dating in the past, however finding that special someone has eluded me. Currently, I am looking for a woman between 35-45 that is very wealthy. You would think living in Scottsdale that this would be easy to find on my own, but it has proven not to be for a number of reasons. Anyways, I was hoping if you currently had a female client that fits this profile and she really wanted a great catch that I could be put in the mix?
Please let me know your thoughts?
Thank you,
(a great catch)
No gold diggers allowed. Women or men seeking someone wealthy (who are not wealthy themselves already) are not accepted by Scottsdale / Phoenix Arizona based Matchmaker Roseann Higgins who owns Single Professional Introductions for the Especially Selective in Phoenix Arizona and has a 95% success rate and only a 3% divorce rate www.especiallyselective.com 602-241-1800
Here is my response to the great catch seeking a very wealthy woman.
Hi (you),
Thank you for the email and for your honesty.
If you were a girl writing seeking a wealthy man, I would tell you I don’t work with gold diggers and if you want a sugar daddy, I’m trying to protect my clientele from people after them for their money.
So, switch the sexes, same answer.
If you were wealthy and that was the reason for seeking someone wealthy, it still is such a narrowing criteria. It would eliminate so many wonderful single women who might be the better one to love and support you and your dreams and be at your side forever. Those would be the leading criteria I could search on. And knowing you have a job probably means you’re not independently wealthy.
You are the first one who’s written me to seek a wealthy woman (in 18 years). But I’m old fashioned. I believe in true love. I want people to meet for the right reasons. To have someone who will love them, no matter what, in good times and bad, richer and poorer. If you marry for the right reasons, you’ll conquer anything together.
The couples I introduce stay married. I’m not going to mess with that! 
Roseann Higgins
(602) 241-1800
Prologue:
I could have said and have said to others who are fans of the popular Millionaire Matchmaker TV show and love her brassiness, “This is not the millionaire matchmaker. If anyone wants to meet my millionaires, by-by!” If that is your leading criteria, your relationship is doomed from the start. Finding people who want to date a millionaire is not what God put me on earth to do. I take the skills I’ve been given as a blessing. The happy relationships and healthy families and low divorce rate are the biggest gifts I can leave behind. I’m honored to work with who I work with and to introduce every one of them. I am a protector.
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How would you have responded to this email? What do you think of marrying for money? Did you marry for money? How has that affected your life? Do you feel you sold your soul? If you could do it over, would you? How are your children turning out from the decisions you are making? How do you want children you will have to turn out?
These are questions you should be asking yourself before you marry the first time or the next time. Marriage affects more than the two of you.
You know what I think is the saddest part Roseann? I think that if someone is looking for a wealthy Partner exclusively (especially if they are not wealthy themselves), they are looking for money to solve what obviously is some deep-seated unhappiness or frustration that they believe money will solve. Money doesn’t solve anything. They will discover that very quickly. You are a truly lovely soul who has an amazing gift and lives by her principles. Sorry – but I probably would have told your writer that I don’t set people up with slime-buckets. But that’s why I am not a matchmaker
Well said. It gave me goose bumps that you would take the time from your beautiful office overlooking the water in the Bahamas to help with such a great insight.
I tried to think of what it must be like to seek someone for their money for a moment, from the mindset you mention: that they have deep-seated unhappiness and hope money will solve their problems.
Money is not what holds you tight and keeps you warm at night and smiles at you in the morning when you open your eyes. Although money has been known to make gold diggers smile, so maybe that’s a bad last example.
But the problems the person who believes money will solve their problems has will still exist after they get money. It’s the problems that need to be addressed. A whole person is needed to start a healthy relationship.
Lisa-Marie, you have such a lovely soul and you can do the edgy thing and be real. I love that about you! You have been supportive from the moment we met in line last month at Gary Vaynerchuk’s book signing, oh Galahad! How is that coming? Ready to say yet? You can email. Thanks for sharing your insights. It means the world to me.
You go girl! If it’s looked down upon for a woman to look for a wealthy man, it should be equally looked down upon if a man is looking for a wealthy woman! Obviously, this gentleman has his priorities messed up, and he was probably stereotyping you as a professional matchmaker as someone who deals only with the wealthy and gold-diggers (sadly propagated by shows like “The Millionaire Matchmaker”). Relationships are not about finding a sugar daddy or sugar mama. Wealth is a lucky bonus if the mutual attraction, respect, and love are there first. But looking for someone just because they have money treads a fine morality line. And from talking to you, you don’t seem like someone who would take on insecure clients with their priorities in the wrong place!